Hey there, singles! It’s your favorite dating coach, Chelsea Penner “The Love Mentor”, here to give you some real talk about your singlehood. Yeah, I know you’re probably thinking, “Why should I care about my friend’s relationship? Ain’t nobody got time for that!” But, bear with me, my lovelies, because your friend’s love life could be directly affected by your solo status. As a dating coach, I have seen countless couples struggle because of a friend’s behavior. And don’t worry, I’ll be sure to point out all the funny and relatable aspects of the situation so you won’t feel attacked, but rather enlightened.
Now, let me clarify something before we dive in. Being single is not a curse, okay? It’s actually a wonderful opportunity to discover who you are, what you want, and to enjoy life on your own terms. But, sometimes, our singlehood can have unintended consequences on those around us. Here’s how:
1. You might become the third wheel. Let’s face it, nobody likes being the third wheel. Your couple friends might feel awkward inviting you on a romantic dinner or a movie night. They may even feel guilty leaving you out and end up not doing anything at all. This puts a strain on their relationship and stops them from getting their much-needed date nights or quality time.
2. You could be a hot commodity. Yes, my dear singles, you have a superpower that couples don’t have: the ability to make other people jealous. Your freedom and independence could make your friend’s partner question their own relationship. They might wonder if they’re missing out on something by being in a committed relationship, or worst, they might develop feelings for you.
3. You might give bad advice. As a single person, you have a different perspective on relationships than someone in a committed one. You might give advice based on your own experience, which might not be relevant or helpful for your friend’s relationship. And, let’s be real, sometimes we singletons give advice that’s biased towards staying single because we don’t want our friend to be happily coupled and abandon us.
So, what can you do to avoid these pitfalls? First of all, don’t change who you are because you think it might help your friend’s relationship. Be true to yourself and embrace your singlehood. However, be mindful of your words and actions, and don’t let your own situation overshadow your friend’s needs. If they need a night out as a couple, suggest a few fun ideas that don’t require a third wheel. If they ask for dating advice, try to think of it from their perspective, not yours.
Remember, being single doesn’t mean you’re alone or insignificant. You have a valuable and unique perspective that your friends could benefit from, but you also have a responsibility to support them. Being single can sometimes cause unintentional harm to your friends in relationships. It is important to be aware of your actions and considerate of your friend’s feelings when spending time with their significant other. By following the tips outlined above, you can help strengthen your friend’s relationship and build stronger friendships overall. For more helpful tips and ways to connect with like-minded individuals, join swaGGerscan today. Let’s build a supportive and uplifting community together.So, go out there and live your best life, while also being a great friend to those who choose a different path.
Take care, my swaggers, and until next time!