Online Dating for Women: The ultimate guide for what not to do

Online dating has become a popular way for people to meet potential partners in the 21st century. It provides a convenient platform for individuals to connect with others who share similar interests and values. However, the process of online dating can be daunting, especially for women who may face a different set of challenges and potential dangers. In this ultimate guide for what not to do, we will explore the experiences of women who have navigated the world of online dating and highlight the crucial missteps that can lead to disappointment or even danger. If you’re a woman looking to try online dating, read on to learn how to avoid common mistakes and stay safe while pursuing love in the digital age.

Ladies, let’s be real here – we’ve all been there. You’ve matched with a guy on a dating site and you’re really interested in getting to know him better. But before you go full speed ahead, let me remind you of some crucial don’ts that you should definitely avoid if you want to make a great first impression. So, pause your search, take a sip of your bottled water, and listen up and you’ll get the ultimate guide on what not to do when getting to know a guy on a dating site.

1. Don’t overshare
Yes, we all have a lot to say about ourselves, but try to keep your conversation with your match light and casual at first. Don’t dive into your deepest, darkest secrets or your complicated family history right away. Let the conversation flow naturally and don’t force anything too personal too soon.

2. Don’t be a detective
I know it’s tempting to do some light internet stalking to learn more about your match, but don’t take it too far. Don’t go scrolling back to his old vacation pictures from 2014 or comment on a photo from a year ago. This will only come off as creepy and invasive. A little mystery is good at the beginning of a relationship, so don’t overanalyze everything you find online.

3. Don’t ghost
Not interested anymore? Be honest and let him know. Ghosting is never the answer, especially if you’ve been talking for a while. It’s just plain disrespectful and can leave the other person feeling confused and hurt. It’s important to be straightforward and honest if you’re not feeling a connection anymore.

4. Don’t rush things
Don’t force anything that doesn’t feel right. Take your time and get to know each other at a natural pace. Don’t push to meet up in person right away or try to fast-forward the relationship before it’s ready. If it’s meant to be, it will happen naturally.

5. Don’t be too clingy
It’s important to give each other space, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Don’t constantly message him or expect him to be at your beck and call. Keep things light, casual, and let him know you’re interested, but allow him to have his own life and space to breathe.

To sum it up, getting to know someone on a dating site can be exciting, but it’s important to take your time and not rush anything. Avoid oversharing, being too nosy, ghosting, rushing things and being too clingy. Stay true to yourself, have fun, and let things develop naturally. Good luck out there, girls!

I’m Chelsea Penner, the official dating coach for swaGGerscan.com. As a certified dating coach with over 10 years of experience, I can show you how to find success in your quest to find a healthy love. Let’s connect here on swaGGerscan.

What Not to Do on a First Date

So, you finally have a first date with that online acquaintance you’ve been talking to for what feels like forever. It’s exciting, nerve-wracking, and, let’s face it, a bit scary. We all want the first date to be perfect, but sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves and end up making some common mistakes.

To help you avoid any first date disasters, I’ve compiled a list of what NOT to do on your first date with your online acquaintance. So, grab a glass of wine and let’s get started.

1. Don’t show up late.

This might seem like an obvious one, but you’d be surprised how many people think it’s okay to show up late on a first date. Not only does it show a lack of respect for your date’s time, but it also sets a bad tone for the rest of the evening. If you’re running late, make sure to give your date a heads up and apologize when you arrive.

2. Don’t talk too much about your ex.

We get it, your ex was the worst. But, your first date with your online acquaintance is not the time to vent about your past relationships. Keep the conversation light, and if the topic of exes comes up, keep it brief and move on.

3. Don’t be glued to your phone.

We live in a world where our phones are practically an extension of our bodies, but on a first date, it’s important to give your date your undivided attention. Keep your phone out of sight and resist the urge to check it every five seconds. Trust me; your Instagram feed can wait.

4. Don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu.

You might be tempted to order the lobster, but it’s crucial not to go overboard on your first date. Opt for something in the middle price range or ask your date for a recommendation. Remember, it’s not about the food; it’s about getting to know each other.

5. Don’t reveal too much too soon.

It’s important to be open and honest with your date, but that doesn’t mean you need to spill your entire life story on the first date. Leave some things to the imagination and let the relationship unfold naturally.

6. Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

Most importantly, don’t be afraid to be yourself on your first date. It’s easy to get caught up in trying to impress your date, but remember that they agreed to go out with you because they liked you for who you are. So, let your personality shine through, and have fun.

There you have it, ladies, a few dos and don’ts for your first date with your online acquaintance. Remember to relax, be yourself, and have a good time. And, if all else fails, there’s always tooGGee.

“Confidence is cool, but swaGGer is irresistible” —Chelsea Penner (@itsthelovementor)

Kissing on the first date

Well, well, well ladies. I’m here to discuss a topic that’s not exactly dinner table conversation but is equally important – STDs. Specifically, why you should avoid intimacy with a new acquaintance. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “I’m a grown woman who can make her own decisions.” And you’re right, you are a grown woman who can make your own decisions. But let me tell you, avoiding intimacy with a new acquaintance is a decision that you won’t regret.

First and foremost, let’s talk about the facts. One in every six Americans has herpes, and that doesn’t even begin to cover all the other STDs out there. The truth is, you don’t really know anything about your new acquaintance, including their sexual health history. Sure, they might seem like a nice person, but nice people can still have STDs. In fact, some STDs don’t even show symptoms, so your new acquaintance might not even know they have one. And let’s not even get started on the fact that condoms aren’t 100% effective against all STDs.

“But what if my new acquaintance is tested and comes back negative for STDs?”

Well, that’s all well and good, but even if they are negative today, that doesn’t guarantee they’ll be negative tomorrow. They could have unprotected sex with someone tomorrow who has an STD and then pass it on to you the next time you get intimate.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “But NexBot, I really like this person and I want to get intimate with them.” I get it, I really do. But here’s the thing, getting an STD can have serious consequences. It can affect your fertility, your health, and your ability to have sex in the future. Is one night of pleasure really worth all of that?

So, my dear ladies, I implore you to think twice before getting intimate with a new acquaintance. Take the time to get to know them better and have the all-important STD conversation. And remember, there’s no shame in protecting yourself and making smart decisions. Stay safe out there.

 Beginning a Strong Relationship with a Guy

Strong relationships with the men in our lives are incredibly important for our well-being and happiness. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a family member, or a friend, fostering meaningful connections with men can help us feel loved, understood, and supported. If you’re looking to build stronger relationships with the men in your life, here’s what you need to know.

1. Communicate effectively.

Effective communication is key to maintaining any relationship, and it’s especially important when it comes to men. Men are often socialized to be less expressive about their emotions, which can make it difficult for them to open up. But it’s important to create a space where they feel safe to do so. Be patient, non-judgmental, and offer reassurance that you truly care about what they have to say.

2. Respect their boundaries.

Every person has their own individual boundaries, and it’s important to respect these boundaries in order to build trust and respect in a relationship. If a man sets a boundary, listen and honor it. This can be anything from not wanting to talk about a specific topic to needing alone time. Similarly, it’s important to set your own boundaries and communicate them clearly so that the man in your life knows how to respect your needs as well.

3. Show interest in their hobbies.

Men often have different interests than women, and it’s important to show interest in their hobbies and passions. This not only shows that you care about their interests, but it can also be a great way to bond and create shared experiences. Whether it’s playing video games together or going fishing, finding common ground can help to build a stronger relationship.

4. Be supportive.

Support can come in many forms. Whether it’s emotional support during a difficult time, or practical support like helping with a task, being there when they need you is key to strengthening a relationship. It’s important to offer support without judgement or expectation of a return – sometimes just being there to listen or lend a hand can make all the difference.

5. Be honest and transparent.

Honesty and transparency are crucial in any relationship. Being upfront about your needs, feelings, and expectations can help to build trust and avoid misunderstandings. Similarly, don’t be afraid to ask for what you need or speak up if something is bothering you. Being open and honest can be difficult, but it’s an essential part of building a strong relationship.

Building strong relationships with the men in your life begins with knowing your health status, effective communication, mutual respect, showing interest in their hobbies, being supportive, and being honest and transparent. By following these guidelines, you can create strong, meaningful relationships with the men in your life that will last a lifetime.